How to nail the role of “Maid of Honour”

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So what’s involved when you’ve been hired to run the show?

Congratulations! You have been asked to be a Maid of Honour and you have an exciting time ahead of you; the bride has chosen you as the most trusted and capable person in her life to take on the role of her second in command. You’re going to have a lot of fun helping plan the wedding and support the bride with the upcoming nuptials but you might not know where to start or where your responsibilities lie.

To help you out, we’ve listed what the Maid of Honour is traditionally responsible for leading up to the wedding, during the wedding and even after the wedding. It might be helpful to sit down with your bride and discuss what she would like to you be involved in, being armed with the below information will give her confidence in you as well as cement her decision that you were are the right woman for the job!

Pre Wedding:

The MOH generally lends a helping hand and ear to the bride. As the wedding day approaches, emotions will run high so you might need to take the bride’s hand and remind her that you and the other bridesmaids are there for her and that everything will be ok… breathe and sip on some wine if it helps.

You’ll need to accompany the bride when dress shopping and fittings; most bridal shops require an advanced booking so offer your help to contact bridal stores that the bride is interested in visiting to make some bookings. This also applies to any vendors or suppliers the bride needs to contact, offer a helping hand and she’ll tell you what needs done; don’t forget to delegate to the other bridesmaids to help you out.

Lead the bridal party. As MOH, you will be the main conduit between the bride and the bridesmaids. First off, it’s a good idea to organise a coffee, lunch or dinner date with the bridal party in the early stages to meet and exchange contact details if you don’t already know them. This is also a good time for the bride to explain what everyone’s role will be i.e. the MOH will be the main contact and give guidance on what needs to be done.

Ask the bride to provide you with a list of all the vendors and suppliers she has booked with, this way if anything goes wrong or needs to be addressed, you can help take care of it for her. Also, get the details of any registries and be the point person, in case guests have any questions, you can direct them.

Host or co-host the bridal shower / kitchen tea. Generally the bridal shower / kitchen tea is hosted by the MOH, you and the bridesmaids should run the show here and let the bride enjoy herself unless she wants to be involved.

Plan the Hens party. Get the bridesmaids involved in planning the day / night and take into consideration the older generations in the bride and groom’s families. Just because they’re older and may not want to party, doesn’t mean they don’t deserve an invitation; allow them to decline rather than assume they won’t want to come. Many people also opt for a low key brunch or high tea in addition to the hens night to accommodate for mothers, aunts, grandmothers and even under age family members so that everyone gets to enjoy a celebration with the bride.

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The Big Day

Get prepared and dressed with the bride, bridesmaids and the bride’s mother. Enjoy the morning before the day gets crazy and keep the bride calm and relaxed. To help with this, make sure you are well versed in the day’s schedule from ceremony, photos and reception to help the day run smoothly. It’s also a great idea to prepare an emergency kit containing everything that could help resolve any kind of wardrobe malfunction and don’t forget to have all vendor’s contact information near by!

During the ceremony, attend to the bride’s train and veil when she arrives at the alter making sure that it looks perfect for the photos. Hold her bouquet whilst she exchanges her vows and sign the register as her witness.

At the reception, help bustle the bride’s train and veil before dancing, this includes going to bathroom too! These days many MOH’s also give a speech or a toast after the Best Man; it is up to you and the bride as to whether you would like to, it could be a nice touch. Make sure the bride eats and drinks, she will be famished and pulled in every direction so you may need to force feed her while she makes her way around the room…. joking of course! Lastly, help out with any last minute details at the end of the night, this includes making sure that the gifts are transported safely.

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Post Wedding

Your job is almost done but before you breathe a sigh of relief and put your feet up, you could help out with returning any attire that was hired and needs to be returned, ensure that the gifts have arrived at their destination safely and finally, remind the newlyweds to send out their thank you notes.

This may sound exhausting and quite a big responsibility but we truly believe that the more organised you are, the better and more seamless your job will be. If the bride to be isn’t very good at making decisions or delegating tasks, help her; that’s what you’re there to do. We can’t stress enough how important it is to communicate and coordinate the bridal party so that everybody knows what’s happening and what needs to be done; this will remove any “she said, she said” from the equation and help all of you have a lovely and happy time leading up to the wedding and especially on the day.

Good luck and happy planning!

Purple Orchid Brides

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