You have found it…. The most amazing dress that makes you feel like the only woman strutting around on the planet. It’s just the way you pictured it and it fits perfectly… you hardly need to adjust it, plus the sales assistant is a dream come true and is an expert on everything bridal….. LIES!!!! ALL LIES!!! However, there is no reason to panic… just have a clear mind.
When it comes to choosing your gown, it’s likely that you will face some frustrating, stressful and even nail-bitingly scary moments. If you’re limited to shopping on weekends, you’ll face packed out stores and come face to face with other sweaty, red face brides to be who are trying on 15 different styles in one day. Don’t panic, you will look perfect on your wedding day and the dress will be the perfect one for you, but there are a few things to keep in mind when shopping, purchasing and especially alerting your wedding gown.
Choosing your gown
Many people will tell you to keep an open mind and try different styles of dresses and that’s great, you must keep an open mind towards everything that has to do with your wedding. Don’t however, let the sales assistant force you into the latest trend or something that you really don’t like; you’ve been trying on dresses your entire life and you’ve probably figured out which styles suit your body shape. Use that knowledge and try to stick to what you know would be most flattering. That doesn’t mean that you need to stick to the same style as all your dresses in your closet, but you know what feels good; trust your gut and your style. If you feel like you’ve walked into a store will pushy sales people, leave. There are hundreds of retailers to choose from.
Beware of empty promises
Just because she sells dresses, does not make her an expert. This is a big lesson…. The lady at the store is most likely not a dress maker or a seamstress but will have a good idea of how to guide you in terms of selecting the style of dress you’ve told her you like. These people are salespeople, and in many cases may tell you what you want to hear; be careful not to be too trusting when she tells you that the dress you order can be tailored to fit exactly how you want it to. Many brides have been disappointed to find that certain alterations won’t be made to the dress when they go in for their first fitting (note that we said “won’t”, not “cant”).
If this happens, don’t stress, there is always a solution. The thing is, bridal stores will have contracts with seamstresses to make minor alterations for their customers. They are however expected to stay loyal to the designer and are less likely to make alterations to your dress based on your body shape and your style. It’s extremely important to remember that this is not your only option. If you would like some small changes made to your dress that sit outside the design of the dress itself and you don’t feel like you’re being listened to, DO NOT let her touch your dress, take your dress to another professional to make the alterations for you. We guarantee that whatever you need done to your dress can be done and an independent dress maker will ensure that the dress fits you and look great on you.
Stretch it out
If you can, try to have your final fitting as close as possible to your big day. It completely makes sense to have the dress sorted and in your wardrobe well in advance, however many brides do lose a couple of kilos in the last weeks leading up to the wedding due to all the anticipation, so if your seamstress can manage it, try to have your gown ready one week before, just to make sure that it fits like a glove on the day.
The truth is, you will face some bumps along the way when planning your wedding but stay level headed and remember that there is a solution for everything! If you’ve decided to get your dress made from scratch, make sure you research the designer and check all reviews on their work. Ask to see a portfolio if they have one and also ask them how they work with different body types. These people are professionals and are very creative so make sure your discussion with them is as detailed as possible.
Good luck and happy planning
Purple Orchid Brides